When Taking A Break From Dating Is A Good Thing (And When It's Not)
I'm just coming out of a deliberate dating-hiatus. I've spent the last two months not dating at all. On purpose. I've been licking some compassion-deserving, emotional wounds and listening to the...
View ArticleThis Is The Only Way To Succeed At Online Dating
As a dating and love coach, I hear a lot of complaints about online dating. Single women and men alike complain about how many people they find online who lie about their age or their height or their...
View Article3 Non-Negotiable Truths You Must Believe Before You Can Fall In Love
If you ask anyone what they most want in life, most will say love, right? Yet, many people who ultimately want to be in a relationship aren't actually ready to give (or even receive) love. For...
View ArticleWhy Dating Someone Who's "Not Your Type" Is A Good Thing
A man I was in a relationship with a couple of years ago recently resurfaced in my life. He's still funny. Sexy. Smart. And very successful. And when we were together, he fit my perfect-man paradigm...
View ArticleWhat I've Learned About Love From Having Muscular Dystrophy
I have "lemon girdle." Or that's what the three-year-old me called it. I remember gazing at the lemons hanging on the tree in our backyard, imagining them as womens' bodies, waiting to be transformed...
View ArticleHow To Attract Someone Who Actually Wants Intimacy
In my past, I attracted unavailable men like flies to honey. Over and over, I found myself dating men who either disappeared when the relationship began to approach emotional vulnerability, or were...
View ArticleWhat To Do During A Dating Dry Spell
I am in a dating dry spell. Being a native Southern Californian, dry spells are something I’m familiar with. The hills are dry, fires are quick to catch. Neighbors are replacing their lawns with...
View ArticleWhy We Sabotage Relationships With People Who Treat Us Well
OK, I’ll admit it: I’m a former bad boy addict. I’m not talking about the motorcycle-riding, cigarette-smoking, edge-walking rebels-without-a-cause. I’m talking about the type that didn’t treat me...
View ArticleHow To Turn Dating From A Hassle Into A Positive Experience
Today, I opened up an old email thread I’d had with a friend circa 2009. Apparently, I was pretty bitter back then. As I re-read my own story through this conversation, I saw a woman so jaded by her...
View ArticleFalling For Someone? Ask Yourself These Questions Before You Commit
There’s nothing like the rush of a new relationship. The butterflies. The lost sleep. The giddiness. The unknown. It’s easy to lose ourselves in it. These feelings are intoxicating, which is why we...
View ArticleThis One Mistake Might Be Keeping You From True Love
For the longest time, I believed what I'd been told: that drunk drivers, whose bodies are fluid and loose with alcohol, are more likely to remain uninjured in a crash than those who are sober and brace...
View ArticleThe Behavior That Ruins Relationships Before They Even Start
Last night, I had dinner with a friend, and the subject of love came up, as it always does when we’re together. I got vulnerable with her and shared my anxiety about falling for a new guy....
View ArticleThe Only 3 Prerequisites To Finding Real Love
I remember being in elementary school — fifth grade, maybe — and watching the "popular girls" work the crowd. They had so much power. The boys flirted with them in the way that little boys do, more...
View ArticleThe Sneaky Self-Talk That's Sabotaging Your Relationships (And How To Stop)
The thing I say to myself most — more than affirmations, more than inspirations, more than anything — is the word should. The almost inevitable result of should is a doubt spiral that makes me feel...
View ArticleWhat Your Relationship Failures Are Trying To Tell You
What if I told you that your relationships — even the failed ones (in fact, especially the failed ones) — were the gateway to self-awareness and -acceptance? That through an exploration of your...
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